FRIEND: I thought
this was what we both wanted. SITUATION:
You and your boyfriend (girlfriend) have been going out for a while. From the beginning you touched and kissed a lot. On his (her) birthday, you are alone and feel very close. You begin kissing and touching and feeling excited. Your boyfriend (girlfriend) wants to have sex with you, but you want to tell him (her) that you are not ready.
FRIEND: Why are you stopping now?
YOU: Wait. I’m not sure that I’m ready.
FRIEND: It isn’t my birthday every day, you know.
YOU: Yeah, I know.
FRIEND: There’s no reason to wait. It will mean even more now. What’s the difference, now or later?
YOU: Well, I’m not sure.
FRIEND: I thought
this was what we both wanted.
YOU: Do you love me?
FRIEND: Yes, and sex is part of love.
YOU: I guess you’re right.
(They stop talking and go back to kissing--this direction should only be read).
What happened? Make a list of things the character "You" might do or say differently to be effective and get what s/he wants. Everyone should understand that the failure of "You" in the role play was a failure to clearly and firmly say No.